Should I pay a relative to care for my child?

This is a tricky question. Yes, you should pay, but that doesn't mean your relative will accept money. Some family members refuse payment, saying it's their pleasure (or duty) to help take care of a member of their family.

If you're lucky enough to have a loving relative nearby who's willing to take care of your baby at no charge, you might want to find some type of non-monetary compensation. Get her gift certificates for restaurants, movie theaters, or her favorite store, surprise her with a thank-you card and flowers every few weeks, or offer to pay a bill or help with household chores or yardwork. You should also plan on giving your relative days off and vacation time.